If you’re considering therapy for your child, discussing the idea with them can be tricky. Here are some tips to help you navigate the conversation:
- Explain therapy in age-appropriate language: Kids are familiar with doctors, so tell your little ones that a therapist is like a “feelings doctor” who helps them talk about times when they feel sad, mad, or bad. You can also tell them that a therapist will talk with them about things they like to do, things they’re good at, and times when they feel happy and silly. Emphasize that therapy can address problems and focus on what is going well in their lives.
- Promise fun and play: Child therapists use play therapy, engaging kids’ creativity and imagination. Tell your little ones that a therapist will have fun toys and interesting games to teach them. If your child likes to draw or act, make sure the counselor you choose is comfortable incorporating art and drama into sessions.
- Present therapy as a new adventure: Talk with their counselor about whether it makes sense to join them in the therapy room for the first session or to let them get to know the therapist on their own. Tell your kids how excited you are for their new adventure, and how lucky they are that they get to go talk and play with a special person every week. Present counseling as a unique opportunity for learning and fun, and your child will be eager to meet the therapist.
- Check your stigmatizing ideas: To combat the still-too-common idea that therapy is embarrassing, it is important to normalize talking with someone about difficulties. Referring to your own positive experiences with therapy, or how helpful it has been to someone you know, will have a significant impact on the acceptance your kids will feel about it. Validate any struggles your child may be experiencing and offer counseling as a helpful and educational activity.
For older kids who may have some concept of therapy, start by asking them about their expectations. Many kids, and even adults, mistakenly think a counselor’s job is to tell you what to do. Explain to your older kids that a therapist’s job is to find out about them and help them figure out what they want and how to accomplish it. Remember, the key to a productive therapeutic experience is for kids to have fun and feel special.
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